It shouldn’t take a global crisis to make us realize that we should never wait to say, “I love you” to those who matter most to us. Here we are, though, learning the hardest way imaginable that “tomorrow” is never guaranteed. So today, I am urging you (begging you, really)- don’t wait to tell people you love them! Shout it from the rooftops today.
Please, Don’t Wait to Tell People You Love Them
We’re all terrified every waking moment these days. I won’t add to that with heart-wrenching stories about people who didn’t get a chance to say goodbye to their loved ones. I think (I hope) we all get it by now. This is very, very serious. More serious than we ever could have imagined just a month ago. Besides, even in the best of times, tomorrow is never guaranteed.
So, no, I won’t bombard you with emotional pleas from those who lost their chance to say goodbye. Instead, we’re going to talk about regret, because it’s one of the very worst feelings in the world.
Regret is one the worst feelings in the world
Regret truly is among the worst feelings, second only to loss. In fact, loss and regret often go hand-in-hand. When we lose a loved one, we grieve the loss of time with them. We mourn the fact that we’ll never hear sound of their voice, the warmth of their hug, and all the tomorrows that will never come. That grief and sense of loss is profound for everyone, regardless of whether you spent a lifetime making the most of every moment or not.
Here’s the thing, though, that grief does ease up. When it does, it’s replaced with one of two things- acceptance or regret. If you really savored every moment together and said “I love you” every chance you got, eventually you’ll be able to look back on those happy times with a sense of peace. You’ll never stop being sad, never stop missing your lost loved one, but you’ll at least know that you truly did make every minute count with them.
Sadly, regret doesn’t work quite the same way. Ask anyone who ever lost a loved one after a big fight. Regret lingers and eats away at us. Studies show that it can even affect our physical health. Some regret is fixable. If we’re sad that we didn’t finish a college degree, we can always go back. If we regret losing touch with our high school best friend, we can look them up on Facebook and reconnect. Voila, no more regret.
Some regret can never be erased
When that regret comes from not telling someone that you love them before it’s too late, it never goes away. There’s a quote that really says it all, “Don’t wait until it’s too late to tell someone how much you love, how much you care. Because when they’re gone, no matter how loud you shout and cry, they won’t hear you anymore.” In other words, you will never, ever, ever have the chance to say it to them again. Ever.
Really let that sink in. If your loved ones are still with you, what you do now will determine how you feel when they’re gone. Right now, you have an opportunity to make sure that everyone knows how much you care. So, call your mom, your dad, your siblings, your best friend! Tell them how much they mean to you. Tell them today, tomorrow, and every single day from now until the end of your time together. You will never regret saying “I love you.” You will, however, regret NOT saying it, and it will eat away at you.
Like I said in the beginning, tomorrow doesn’t ever come with a guarantee. We never know how much time we have left with the people we adore. So, whether we’re in the middle of a crisis or experiencing a bounty of good fortune, you should never, ever wait to tell people you love them.