Most of us constantly complain about our children’s behavior. But who is really causing all the stress? Well, now a recent survey shows that husbands stress out women more than children.
Husbands Stress Out Women More Than Children
Why are we always so stressed out? Having children can be very demanding but then you feel like your husband is like an extra in your life. And according to the study, the husband is the one who has the greater impact on your stress levels.
It is in our natural instincts to worry about everything. The birthday parties, the teachers’ gifts, the travel plans, the family meals, the extra curricular activities. We always want to be on top of it all. It is in our nature to want to plan and at the same time worry about every single detail. Women. We are well-known for that.
On the other hand, husbands seem more relaxed and easy going. They don’t stress out as much as we do, and I think this is one of the reasons why they stress us out so much. Some women believe that marriage is a more difficult relationship than parenting. And I think they are absolutely right!
You might also be interested in knowing why kids act up when their moms are around. A theory that will also give you an answer as to why women are always so stressed out. All drama is always reserved for us!
And A Recent Survey Proofs Husbands Stress Out Women More
A survey conducted by Today of over 7,000 moms found that the average mother rates her stress levels an 8.5 out of 10, and a whopping 46 percent of women say their husbands are causing more stress than their kids.
According to the survey, mothers stress most about not having enough time in the day to do everything that needs to be done. Three-quarters of moms with partners say they do most of the parenting and household duties. One in five moms says not having enough help from their spouse is a major source of daily stress.
Often, moms complain, the fathers of their children are more like big kids than equal partners. Mom stress is fundamentally different than dad stress, women say, and the inability to see eye-to-eye with a partner can lead to, you guessed it, more stress.
Marriage is more stressful than parenting
According to Hal Runkel, an Atlanta-area family therapist, the problem with all the stress is really not men, the problem is marriage. He says that marriage is stressful by nature, even good marriages. While marriage can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience, no lifelong commitment is likely to run smoothly at all times. And it seems like it is even more of a challenge than parenting sometimes.
“Marriage is a more difficult relationship than parenting,” said Runkel. “Combine the two and it’s a recipe for stress.”
This is a very interesting study and shows us how much stress we need to deal with on a daily basis. In my case, I am a very emotional person (even more emotional after having kids), and if something does not go as planned I tend to stress out a lot. What about you? Do you feel your husband stresses you out more than your kids?
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Donna Wassing says
You nailed it right on the head – and that survey is right as well. In fact I am surprised that the percentage wasn’t higher! I’m a mom of one (she’s 32 but lives at home still) and a grammie to an 8 year old – and although they drive me nuts, they are still easier to handle sometimes than my 52 year old kid lol!
You are absolutely right. The stress our partners put on us by virtue of marriage and all its issues are even more stress than the kids. I am a mother of 2 (a 2 year old and a 1 year old).
Norma Delgado says
I totally agree! I feel I have to do it all. I understand and thankful for my husband being able to provide….but their is more to marriage than that. If only my husband can understand that I need his HELP! My stress and anxiety would be reduced and I will be able to give him the attention he needs. I think husbands take the back seat instead of delving in their role as the husband and father. My hat off to those husbands who do help.
tiffany colby says
I been married for 7 years and my husband does nothing to help me relieve my stress I get no help doing dishes or laundry he just sets there on his but all day and plays games and watching movies I want some help around the house it wouldn’t make it less stressful sometime I thinkaabout a divorce he doesn’t know why doesn’t to qny of them I more of a maid then a wife
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you for sharing your story. Sorry to hear you are constantly stressed out. My advice will be to talk to your husband and let him know how you feel and what you expect from him. Hope you find a solution soon.