Our parents give us so many things throughout our lifetime. From before our birth to our childhood and even into our adult years, they never stop giving…even when it means giving up their own wants and needs. We never appreciate just how much they do for us until we become parents ourselves. Even then, sometimes we don’t know until it’s too late and they’re gone. So, let’s change that. Read on for 10 things all parents secretly sacrifice to make their kids’ lives better. Then, go thank mom and dad for everything they did for you.
Things Parents Secretly Sacrifice to Make Their Kids’ Lives Better
I came across this great quote the other day that said, “Appreciate your parents. You never know what sacrifices they went through for you.” It really made me think about the things that we all give up for our kids, which in turn made me realize that our own parents gave up the same things for us. From small sacrifices to major life changes, here are the top ten things that parents give up to make sure their kids have a better life. You may also love my post about 10 Things Your Mom Never Told You (Because There Were No Words).
1. Sleep
Sleep deprivation is so common in early parenthood that it’s almost an inside joke among moms and dads. In fact, one survey actually shows that brand-new parents lose about 2-3 HOURS of sleep each night (assuming 8 hours for an average night’s sleep pre-baby).
Here’s the thing, it doesn’t end when our babies start sleeping through the night. It lasts throughout their entire childhood and beyond. Although it’s not as extreme as that first year, parents of young kids still lose roughly 6-9 hours a week, or about the equivalent of one solid night’s sleep.
Think about it for a moment. We take turns staying up all night making sure our kids don’t wander those first nights in their “big kid” bed. The night before their first day of kindergarten, our nerves keep us tossing and turning. When they announce that they want to be Elsa instead of Anna for Halloween, we stay up all night transforming their costume. The list goes on and on…as do the sleepless nights.
2. Peace of mind
Everyone has worries some of the time, but before you have kids, you at least have the possibility of a reprieve. You know that once you take care of your responsibilities, you can just totally relax and unwind, let the worries fade away if only for a little while.
Once your children come along, though, you will always, always, always have at least one worry nagging at the back of your mind. Even when you think you’re feeling pretty Zen-like, that little voice is whispering, “What if….?” Peace of mind becomes a total thing of the past.
Just how much time do parents spend worrying? While there aren’t any major scientific studies, the results of one survey found that we moms and dads clock an insane 37 hours of worry time a week. That’s literally a full-time job!
3. A reliable schedule
The moment our kids enter the world (either late or early, of course, because very few babies are born on their due date), schedules went out the window. All the color-coded family calendars in the world can’t account for tantrums, sick days, and scavenger hunts for your shoes.
The sad thing? Many employers know that parents put their kids before the job, so they discriminate against them, and it’s not even entirely illegal in most states. So that unreliable schedule costs more than just the idea of an orderly life, it can cost us a job.
4. The ability to be spontaneous
Sure, to our kids, it seems like we’re total free spirits, surprising them with weekend trips or fun outings. We know, though, that all those “unplanned” moments revolved entirely around them. We parents secretly sacrifice the ability to take our own spontaneous trips or accept last-minute party invitations.
The thing is, our parents never once complained about giving up all of that spontaneity. They never made us feel guilty because they had to turn down that great offer to go on a cruise with friends or miss out on the movie they wanted to see on opening night to take us to see the latest Disney flick instead. They just quietly gave up their own freedom for us.
― Carroll Bryant
5. Privacy
Privacy is a totally foreign concept to kids, at least until they become teenagers and demand it for themselves (but very rarely give it to you in return). We parents forget what it was like to go to the bathroom alone or take a shower in peace. We also quickly learn that anything we say (even when they thought you weren’t listening) will be broadcast to just the wrong person at just the wrong time.
My friend’s mom has a great story about this! When her brother was little, he told the doctor right in the middle of an exam, “My mom is in love with Harrison Ford. She wants to marry him!” Her mom turned beet red! The funny thing is, this is probably the least horrifying example of how our kids say totally mortifying things about us.
6. Time
Have you ever really thought about how much time we devote entirely to our kids? Here’s a hint- it’s pretty much every waking moment of the first 18 years of their life. We only take a little “me time” after making sure all their needs AND wants were met. Then, we felt bad about it (it’s one of the top 5 reasons moms feel guilty all the time).
If you’re curious, the Bureau of Labor Statistics actually broke down how much time parents spend caring for their kids which kind of bothers me. According to their research, we only spend about an hour a day directly caring for children under the age of 18.
Studies and surveys like that leave out so much, though. Maybe the number of words that we speak or direct attention to (tying their shoes, playing on the floor, etc) doesn’t add up to much, but remember, we’re spending 37 hours a week just worrying about them. Plus, there’s so much more to parenting than just directly interacting with our kids.
7. Friends
When you have kids, it’s hard to stay close to your childless friends. Sure, you try, but your kids come first. After a while, they stop inviting you places because you keep canceling last minute when Tommy gets the flu or Susie has a nightmare. You realize you’re fine with that because you have nothing in common with them anymore.
Before you know it, your “best friend for life” becomes just another person on your Christmas card list and your new social circle is made up entirely of the parents of Susie and Tommy’s friends. It may not sound like a major sacrifice. Growing apart is part of growing up, after all, but it still hurts every now and then to realize that you’ve lost touch with everyone you once knew.
8. Wants
When you’re a parent, your wants come last, plain and simple. Forget the Maslow hierarchy of needs chart, you live by a whole new pyramid. It goes: your child’s needs, your basic life-sustaining needs, your child’s wants, your “important but can still live without them” needs, your wants.
Even when we do have a little extra cash to take care of our wants, we’re more likely to spend it on something we know our kids would love instead. It’s not that we’re spoiling our kids or anything, we just have new priorities. We’d rather see their little faces light up when we surprise them with the latest Squishee than buy a new pair of shoes that we don’t even need.
9. Career aspirations
Times have changed just enough to make it possible to have both kids and a satisfying job, true. However, we parents (both mom and dad) tend to choose the “safer” career path rather than chase an unstable dream.
Maybe you’d love nothing more to live a life of adventure as an archaeologist, but your kids need stability and a real place to call home. So, you choose the path that guarantees food on the table and a roof over your head, even if it’s one you never wanted to take.
10. Comfort Zones
This one is harder to sum up in a short and snappy heading. When we have kids, the imaginary boundaries that outline our “comfort zones” become blurred to the point of extinction. For example, you may be a highly anxious non-confrontational person, but when your child is wronged, they are relying on you to make it right.
You have no choice but to step way outside that comfort zone and stand up for them. It may not sound like a big deal to some, but to those with anxiety, it’s perhaps the greatest sacrifice of all.
Your parents made all the same sacrifices, so stop taking them for granted
Here’s the thing about all those things we parents secretly sacrifice for our kids- your parents made them, too. Just like we sometimes think our kids take us for granted, our parents often felt unappreciated. Yet, they kept on giving their all. They tried their best, every moment of every day because we were worth it.
If you’re lucky enough to still have your parents in your life, take advantage of the time you have left with them. Call them up and thank them. Take them out to lunch. Plan a trip home to see them. In other words, don’t wait until they’re gone to realize just how much they mean to you. You’ll regret it.
I’ll leave you with another great quote that sums it up perfectly: “Love your parents and treat them with loving care. For you will only know their value when you see their empty chair.”
Lzabel Goulart says
I do not have a good relationship with my father. I think I am wrong. I should have more communication with him. “Never complain about the things your parents couldn’t give you. They gave you all they had.” I love this sentence.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you so much for your comment. Glad to know my article helped you 🙂
Renata says
This is so true me and my mom dont have a real good relationship we bump heads and I can be very stubborn and I need to work on that me and my dad get along but we dont see or talk to each other very much at all but my mom and dad have always been there for me and they love me and did there best to raise me and my brother Iove them and I’m going to start working on are relationship. Thanks for everything mom and dad love you guys
Carol says
I had great parents although they are no longer here, but that sentence made me smile through tears. Your article should touch each heart that reads hear. Thank you.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you so much for your comment.
Linda S. Rice says
My parents are no longer here. However, this article reminded me
of how much I tried to show my parents how I really appreciated them.
They both died 9 years ago only one week apart from the other. I couldn’t ask for better parents. Thank you for
your wonderful article.
B. Mahon says
This article is so accurate. Children have no idea and parents don’t get to explain this to their children as they try to keep their heads above water. Sadly with the teenage years and even on into adulthood , sometimes always too often comes disrespect and even condemnation. Sadly too many parents get left behind or left out of their lives. It’s a sad reflection on society when this happens
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you for your comment. I am glad to know you enjoyed reading the article.
Jazmine Lozada says
Life is a cycle. Our parents took care of us and sent us to College and taught us the correct values like being prayerful, studious, industrious, neàt, courteous and polite among others. We likewise should teach that to our children.
Above all we felt their love. Likewise we should let our children feel loved.
A family that prays together stays together.
We prayed the Holy Rosary as family since we were kids. Likewise we brought our children with us in our Catholic prayer meetings when they were kids and encouraged them to pray the Rosary now that they have families of their own.
Thank you Lord Jesus and Mother Mary for your guidance.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you for sharing.
Riza Reyna G. Calma says
All mentioned are very true. You will never realized what are parents done for us until we ourselves we become parents.
Love your parents.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thanks!
SAllen says
It’s Our parents – not Are parents. Are your parents okay? Our parents are okay? We should all realize what our parents have done for us. We should all realize what our parents are doing for us.
Xynia Galedo says
Regret, of the most difficult situation when our parents passed away. More than a year passed and I am still grieving. My mother took care of me and my kids so my husband and I could work. She never complained but sometimes she would say, “just say that you love me and I will be healed!” (In Tagalog) Very simple request and yet we seldom say that we love them. We are so focused to bring food on the table and room to our head that we tend to forget, “time is running out” for our aging parents. “Happy Valentine Nanay!” I love you!
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you for sharing your story. A great reminder that we need to appreciate our parents and spend as much time as possible with them.
anil danthy says
Really brought tears for me…. thank you for this awesome write up…
Creative Healthy Family says
So glad to know you enjoyed the article.
Shervew says
I’ve been studying and working overseas for more than a decade now I don’t mind spending air ticket 3 times a year just to visit my parents and my siblings..i don’t know about my siblings but my parents surely appreciate my effort. Every time I gave her a small amount of money or a gift I can see glimpse in her eyes coz growing up she sacrifices a lot of stuff just to raise us. At this juncture of my life, I am making sure that I can give everything I could just to make them happy and
Creative Healthy Family says
That is great! Thanks for sharing your story. I also studied overseas and I know how you feel 🙂
Annette says
Thank you for your post, you are a beautiful soul. It is so good to be remembered with actions. Your parents are so fortunate to have you, many continued blessings to you.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you so much for your comment.
Madeline and CNN Dave says
We’re so very fortunate to
GREG MUZINGO says
SHE FELT IT MORE IMPORTANT TO PROTECT HERSELF INSTEAD OF ME WHEN I WAS ONLY A SMALL CHILD INCAPABLE OF FINDING ANYONE WHO WOULD BELIEVE ME WHEN I HAD THE COURAGE TO SPEAK UP AND OUT, THE FEW TIMES SHE ASKED THE OFFENDER DIRECTLY SHE TOOK THEIR WORD OVER MINE AND CONTINUED TO PLACE IN THEIR CARE ONLY TO HAVE THEM RETALIATE AS A RESULT OF MY OPEN AND HONEST CRIES FOR HELP. FACT IS I WAS BEING SEXUALLY ,PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED. BY DIFFERENT INDIVIDUALS. I HAVE SENSE REALIZED SHE TOO SUFFERED THESE TRAUMAS BUT THAT DOE NOT EXCUSE HER LACK OF APPROPRIATE ACTIONS. SHE STILL TO THIS DAY TREATS ME AS WELL AS HER BLOOD GRANDSONS WITH CONTEMPTUOUS INDIFFERENCE DESPITE THE FACT HER GRANDCHILDREN HAVE DONE NOTHING TO DESERVE THIS OUTRAGEOUS TREATMENT. i BELIEVE THERE ARE NO BAD PEOPLE ONLY BAD BEHAVIOR. HERS IS REPREHENSIBLE AND SHOWS NOT AN IOTA OF HUMAN COMPASSION OR RESPECT FOR PRECIOUS INNOCENT LIFE FROM THE HAND OF THE ALMIGHTY CREATOR. THIS IS SO DISRESPECTFUL OF MY SOUL, THE HOLY SPIRIT AND EVEN HER OWN GOD GIVEN SOUL.
Creative Healthy Family says
So sorry to hear that.
Pam says
Not all parents are self sacrificing. You suffered as a child and now your children are suffering at her hands too. MOVE ON. You don’t owe her anything until she apologizes.
There are so many lonely neighbors and nursing homes that are full of folks that would be more than happy to step up and be a grandparent friend for your children. Check it out.
Lee says
So sorry you were not given a feeling of being loved. It makes it almost impossible to trust people. My sisters and I are always angry. Me for 72 years. I don’t understand the demon that made my mother not care for us. God bless her soul. I could go on with shocking details but it’s over now and I’m thankful.
Andrea says
I hate to hear that. My niece thinks that showing up to my mom’s for an hour to see her kids is being a good mom. She’s homeless does drugs and prefers men over her own children. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes, but we need to learn from them and get help. Some people should not be parents at all. We also need to break the cycle if our parents went through rough times. We have choices. God loves you! I wish you the best!
H J-T says
Greg, and Everyone else hurt by parents that is extremely unfair, and you are right she has done badly, and apparently still is, now that you have diagnosed the problem, my heartfelt advice is to forgive and let go of the pain and anger, you do not have to allow anyone to hurt you again but the sooner you deal with the negative energy you may feel about this the sooner you will be happier and more at peace with the world and life, remember the longer you hold onto something the heavier it becomes, God bless you X
Carolee says
I agree healing is necessary but forgiveness is not always possible. He’s given enough I think. Bless you too 🙏
Carolee says
Your absolutely right. Your anger is valid, you were not cherished like you should have been ,and denying you the closure even as an adult is in excusable. And your spot-on again when you spoke about people, it’s something I realised as an adult….they are your family but moreover they are peop,le and people can act repulsively, even during thier role as family. I’m praying for strength and resolve for you! Be blessed ,and proud of your ability to be better dispite these wrongs done to your young spirit. 🙏
VIRGINIA says
Mine gave me LOW SELF ESTEEM, SELF LOATHING, SECRET KEEPING, THE ABILITY OF HATING MYSELF, NOT TO TRUST ANYONE, LONLINESS, NOT WORTHY OF LOVE OR KINDNESS, NOT TO DEPEND ON ANYBODY FOR HELP,TEARS,BRUISES.
Patricia Aman says
When I grew up I didn’t realize we were poor. Some things just cost too much to us. As I’ve aged, in my 70’s now, I realize just HOW poor we were. I know now that our mother must have denied herself MANY things. I would love to talk to my parents now as an adult. Great article.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thanks!
L Dcruz says
A very sensible article. Worth Shari g.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thanks!
Jo says
This sacrifice by my mother m,adequite ;a stomg impression on me when I was 5 years old. Tjere were 5 siblings, , the oldest being 7. On an extremely hot summer day, the “ice cream man” was selling ice cream bars. As poor as we were, my mother had enoughmoney to buy one bar. She cut it in 5 pieces for us. She never even licked the stick. That was quite a sacrifice and it taught me to share, however small. I had the best mom and was blessed.
Chris says
So true, great read!
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you.
Mirah Rebik says
Having one kid opens more doors than having several. Having no kids if you can’t afford it prevents unnecessary consequences. Coming from a large family wasn’t a good experience.
I can’t believe the stupidity of my parents, after all, is said and done. Birth control was available, but it is not the choice of Catholics Morman or Muslim clerics. There is power in poverty.
Sandra Love says
My mother sacrificed for me everyday of my life until she passed away suddenly. She never asked for anything. We were very close. My father also passed and it was the opposite for him. He never had the time or the interest. A loss for us both.
Michelle Campbell says
I had wonderful parents although my father passed away suddenly when I was 18, my younger brother was 8 and my baby sister was 3. Mother never worked and she always made sure she was there when we needed her. She lost her mother when she was 12. She was widowed during WWII and had a small child to raise. Then my father passed away suddenly the day before their 20th wedding anniversary. Mom wasn’t the perfect mother but I wouldn’t have traded her for anything. She survived more heartache and medical problems (mainly cancer – twice) her lifetime. She was one of the strongest women I knew. I survived the things I did because of my mother and of course my father was such a wonderful, loving man, who always put family first. My mother never remarried because no one could live up to my father.
I had two failed marriages and two sons. I worked hard to make the best life I could for my sons. It wasn’t the easiest life but my boys new that they were loved and I did the best I could to give them a happy life. My boys have made a good life for their families. They are great husbands and fathers. They have been able to do things and have things I only dreamed about. I moved to be near my boys and their families several years back because they asked me to. They make sure that my granddaughters get to see me on a regular basis. They believe family is important. We’ve had our ups and downs but have always worked things out if there was a problem. I’m so thankful that I get to give my granddaughters so much love. I’m so thankful that watching my boys be parents I feel like I must have done something right. The most important things I gave them was a lot of love and they knew they could talk to me about anything, any time of the day or night, and they did. I’m getting older and know I’m at the short end of my life but I believe my family will always love me and be there for me. You can’t ask for much more than that.
Jeri says
I am very sorry you had a hard life. But you aren’t the only one who had a hard life. My father worked at night so I never really got to see him very often. I looked forward to the week-ends to see my father. My mother was cruel, but protective to the point, I felt she hated me. I for gave her for mean personality. After she had a lot of children and I was the last born. She was worn out. So tired to give or show love, I loved her, wanted so much to hear her say I love you. Those words where never spoken. Before she died, she said to me, I want you to know I loved you and I was hard on you. I am sorry for not giving you time alone with me. Mom and Dad made sure we had a home and plenty of food. There wasn’t much money to buy and do the things my parents wanted to give us. I am 67 yrs old now, and I miss my mom and dad so much. If only I could of said to them, thank you for doing your best of us kids.
My prayer for you, is to Let Go and Let God show you the way to for give her.
Beatrice says
My ex-husband and I come from families with six children. We would often try to figure out how our parents came up with enough gifts at Christmas, new Easter outfits, etc. Since I’m older I can see all the sacrifices they made so we could live a happy carefree life growing up . Great article.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thanks.
Stella says
My parents really tried their best for me though they are no more. I will never forget the training they gave me cos I can still feel the positive impact. I wish and pray to train my children the way they did.
Sonia Saddler says
I had the greatest parents in the world! I must have done something very wrong, because I deeply miss my one & only daughter, & wish she would share with me why this is so.
Benjamin A. says
It’s indeed a wonderful writeup and reawakening call to appreciate and take care of one’s parents. For some of us from very humble background, I used to feel my parents didn’t do much for us until I became a parent myself. On te contrary i have since realised that being a parent alone comes with a lot of sacrifices whether or not they measured up to one’s expectations. While I’m grateful to God that my parents are still alive, my regret sadly, is the inability to take good care of them due to financial constraints especially now that they need my support the most. I hope God continues to spare their lives to enable me do better.
Once again, thank you for this masterpiece.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you so much for your comment. Glad to know you enjoyed the post.
Steve Riker says
As a parent, I never felt that I missed out of anything because of The choices I (we) made. I was an older parent and I did everything I wanted to, including travel as a merchant mariner and acting as a professional actor. I settled into a teaching career for the benefits and stability but parenting opened my heart as well as tying me down. Parenting is its own reward!
Sanitha says
I am blessed, i love my parents so much i couldn’t trade them for any riches. i am still studying and i hope they get to the finish line with me so they could enjoy life i am planning for them. I know they are giving all they have just for my future because they love me. i pray always they will live longer.
Nikki says
I found out my dad whom I lived with passed away on my senior trip to Mexico once I graduated. My siblings were at the airport on Father’s Day to tell me. It was devastating as during my teens years my mom and I didn’t see eye to eye but we were ok. As I grew into an adult my. Mom became my best friend. Closest person to me so when I was deathly I’ll in 2015, she was at the hospital all day everyday and when I was not in the ICU, she would sleep on a cot next to my hospital bed. Never did she let on how close to death I was. Although it was hard we made the best of our time in the 3 months. We remained so close until Sept. 2017. She was diagnosed with extremely aggressive stage 4 metastatic lung cancer. She had quit smoking 7 years prior but it still came. She didn’t want to know a timeline but I did so she told me I could meet with her oncologist. She told me about a year. She last 2 months. 2 short months. I would give anything to speak to either of them. No one wants to be in the parentless club in middle 30s. I cherished both parents always, so no regrets besides how I would go about the last 2 months of her life. Don’t hold grudges. The emptiness in the pit of my stomach is still here after 2 years.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you for sharing your story.
Mishra Kala says
I had great parents although they are no longer here, but that sentence made me smile through tears. Your article should touch each heart that reads hear. Thank you.
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you so much for your comment.
Mary says
Thank you for being so open. I was told to convict her, and then to give her a pardon. I feel your pain . My friend went through something similar, but it’s important what we do now. Love is the great healer. God bless you. Take advantage of the atonement of Jesus Christ. MAC
Deborah says
I have never held a grudge or hated my parents even though they have hurt me my whole life and even now in my adult years cause there was days I had a good childhood, I try to remember the good but the bad keeps popping up in my head, I was physically, verbally and emotionally abused by my parents but more of it was physical abuse and only one of parents hurt me the most since I was three years old starting with broken collar bone with other injuries from being throwed from one side of a room to the other side and the abuse went on my whole life and even up to my adult years and I still receive the abuse. I call my mom almost everyday and before she moved out of state this year I went every weekend and sometimes during the week to visit her and she was so fun to hang out with but when I call her she always answers the phone with the words, “what do you want I don’t have time for you, all you do is talk talk talk and you never shut up” she says other mean words too, but the worst is when I called her a few days ago to see how she is doing and to tell her I was diagnosed with a kidney infection called Acute Pyelonephritis and that it can be life-threatening and I was very scared that my kidneys could fail and right after I told her that she said is,”I want my money did you mail it out go tomorrow and mail my money to me you owe me $20″ I said mom did you hear what I said about my kidneys, she said, “yes I did but I want my money as soon as you wake up in the morning go mail it” she is mean but there is times she is so sweet to me and I Love my mom so much and ya it hurts that she is still treating me like she hates me I think she hated me my whole life but I would do anything and everything I can for her I wouldn’t know what to do if I have ever lost her and I miss her everyday now that she has moved so far away..I just wish you would give me the love and respect that I give her😥
Creative Healthy Family says
Thank you for sharing your story. You are a very strong and kind person.
Fran Heinig says
I had a horrible relationship with my mother for 35 years. A cousin of mine told me to make things right with her, to be the bigger person. She never went to her mother’s death bed to say I’m sorry or goodbye and never went to her funeral. I had been abused in every sense of the word by my mother and step father. I hated my mom but also loved her. Long story short, I forgave my mom and we had to agree to disagree on some things, but we had the best relationship the last 6 years of her life. My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner. I miss my mom very much and its been 11 years since she passed. I was at her side in her home when she went to heaven, it was the most precious thing I’ve ever done besides giving birth to my two children.
Please if you have the chance to make it right do so because you will not regret it I promise. What you will regret is not doing it before they die, I promise you that. Be the bigger person, agree to disagree, compromise, forgive them, but forgiveness does not mean forgotten anything you have to do to make it right. You will be surprised at how you will feel when you do it. The longer you wait the more damage that’s done. The anger you carry around with you will distroy you, maybe not now but sooner or later it will. No matter who it is mom, dad, brother, grandparents etc… make it right.
D says
This just makes me feel sick!! Parents choose to have childrens, unfortunately far too many people have children when they shouldn’t. Stop making out that all parents made these sacrifices or even if they did, don’t hold them over their children.
Kerri says
This was beautifully written thank you.
I had my Miracle child at 43 this is also the time that I decided to walk away from my father and mother’s abusive horrendous negatively that they’ve had in my life I did not want that for my one and only son was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. My stress level and anxiety is almost completely gone now and I have the young man responsible compassionate I know I am building a great foundation for him by walking away from them.
Eleanor James says
Since my husband passed away my girls have changed He was extremely caring and loving to my three girls I married him when my daughters were 7 and 3 years old then we had a daughter in 81 , I married him in 1974 I met in1972 my husband passed on Dec 27 2913 I have not seen them in about 3 or or 4 years I can’t keep up with the years They visit their daddy that didnt do as much for them as my husband did we were married 40 years They wouldn’t treat me this was if he was still living They had more respect for him than me I Did everything for them they were my whole liife My friends can’t believe this they knew us and don’t understand them I am so tired of dealing with this !!!! They said what I did for them that can’t buy their love!!!!! I have 7 grandchildren they want let me see IMe and my husband were there when they were born I saw two births I went home with them and helped I KNOW my g love me so much I get so tired talking about this
Creative Healthy Family says
Thanking for sharing. I am so sorry to hear that. I hope they realize how much you love them.
Vicky Hines says
We have the same situation with our daughter who is now 41 years. I am so sorry for you. I know exactly how you feel! We sacrificed everything for our kids and we would do it again. That’s true love from God, above.
SAllen says
It’s Our parents – not Are parents. Are your parents okay? Our parents are okay. We should all realize what our parents have done for us. We should all realize what our parents are doing for us.